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Hello, beautiful welcome to today's conversation, where we're going to talk about Embrace, positive Thinking, mind-body Harmony. Let's talk about it. I'm your host, Shannon Martin, and welcome to today's episode of this Thing Called Wellness.

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Thank you for joining me on another Wellness.

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Wednesday, I was still thinking about last week's episode, about how the mind and body are interconnected and how we can overcome challenges by eating, drinking, exercising regularly and even feeding our minds positive thoughts, because life has been life and over here y'all and I'm not sure if it has been for you, but such is life right, I have been trying to chug along and, you know, continue to heal and stay on my path. But for some reason, when you're doing well, like eating better, you're back on a good schedule, eating at least two meals a day, snacking a little healthier than before, because I'm not putting bad snacks in the house like before. You know, like I may have a muffin or my favorite snack, popcorn, but nothing out of the ordinary, you know. But recently, this morning, I got a call from my husband because he couldn't find his keys and he was really angry about it and he woke me up before I get up in the morning. Right now we're not really seeing eye to eye and we're not in a good place, right, even though they say you know it's part of marriage and you go through all this. But this has really spiked my anxiety and a little bit of my depression.

Shannon D Martin: 1:47

So when I recorded the episode last week and I asked myself why have I not thought about the mind-body connection before? I mean really thought about it? You know, I know about positive thinking and boundaries and being mindful and all the good things, but today, when I got the phone call, something sparked in me and I said, hmm, this one phone call angered me and I was grouchy for a few hours. I mean really angry, like I said, it was before I got up and I was already furious because, like, you're waking me up before I get up, angry about something that has nothing to do with me, and I thought to myself, why am I allowing this one phone call get to me like this? So I got to thinking, okay, let me refocus this energy and let me pause Because I have a one o'clock accountability call. So before that, I let my dog out. She didn't want to come back in, she didn't want to come back in the house and I'm like, okay, girl, it's 12:57. It's hot out here. This is Georgia. I need you to come on back in.

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So that further angered me and I was through the roof, angry, and I'm like I just need to get coffee, I need to get my snack, I need to get downstairs, I need to turn the computer on, and, and I was just on this hamster wheel of anger, just furious. Have you ever had one of them days where life is just really out of control? Today was that day for me. So I sat down last night as I was trying to decide what I wanted to discuss. You know which direction I wanted to go into today and I said let me continue to discuss this connection, because I found myself being disconnected again and I found this situation slowly pulling me back into a not so good space and I've come too far and I didn't want it to pull me back in.

Shannon D Martin: 4:15

So I sat down last night with my emotions and I began to journal and I realized that I was in a place of disbelief, like how did I get here again? What am I going to do? How am I really feeling about everything right now? Am I really okay? No, I wasn't. I wasn't okay. I'm holding the pieces together with little pieces of tape, right, I'm holding my head up and I'm continuing to move. But I thought about it and the peace that's not here when I have these moments, when my backbone is a little lax. You know my pillar of strength. She's not here anymore. My mother's not here to say it's going to be alright, baby, I'm here for you. God has you then the grief set in right. And that made me cry even harder. Then I realized that my husband and I, seeing aren't seeing to eye that made me hurt my backbone and my support system, are not here anymore. So I just wrote it out, I cried it out and I prayed it out.

Shannon D Martin: 5:42

And this morning I woke up to the call, my dog and all the stuff, and I realized that someone was here with me and I heard you're going to be alright, I'm here with you. Always remember you got yourself into this you can get yourself out of it. Hang on, joy comes in the morning. This is one of my mother's favorite verses and I knew it was her guiding me in being here as best she could. So right then I began to say positive things to myself. Hey, girl, checking on you today, it might not have started out as a good day, right?

Shannon D Martin: 6:30

So your dog didn't come back in like she's supposed to. She's a chihuahua, she's 98 years old, she's stubborn, she stays cold. Let her have her time in the sunshine and let her bask out there. Open the back door, let her chill on the deck. She'll be all right. Right, just let it go right, From here on.

Shannon D Martin: 6:54

Set boundaries on your phone calls. Smile, because remember, that's half the battle. Right, continue to say nice things to yourself. All right, I never used to say nice things to myself. I never pepped myself up or have been my own cheerleader. Until now. I always did that for others, like my children, my husband, even my mom sometimes, but not for me, and it just felt good. So from here on, I'm doing this for me and I'm going to hug myself a little bit more daily.

Shannon D Martin: 7:33

I know that my mom is here with me, because her words and phrases came back to me in spurts. They always seem to come back to me. When I need them the most and at the perfect time. Mindful Moment, when you find yourself in a place where you're piecing yourself back together, because I have been for years now, and I'm sure you have been too you've been piecing yourself back together again with the invisible tape so no one can see it when your world is turned upside down and you have to put the pieces back together again and you just ask God to give you the strength and energy to just keep going, because you're exhausted and you just don't know if it's in you to put yourself together anymore. You're tired, but keep going, no matter how slow or how long it takes. Just keep getting up.

Shannon D Martin: 8:36

Because today turned out to be a pretty amazing day. My accountability call was amazing. We laughed, got each other back on track, helped lay out our next two-week plan so we can meet again in two weeks. We talked about meal planning so we can eat better, and we both wanted to get on a summer schedule so we can exercise and she can go gardening. We talked about how my other friend, myself and my chihuahua we all on menopause and just need a nap and we laughed and we helped each other in our respective areas. My other friend, girl, voice messaged me throughout the day and we talked about hey, it's time to service our HVAC units because the summers in Georgia are no joke and our menopausal selves need this air, and my husband called and apologized for being a butt this morning. Now that's the ice on the cake, right Now. If I had let this phone call my Lily and our marital situation interfere with today or every day, it would not have ended on such a positive note, right? So I'm going to heat up my leftovers, make a salad and continue to watch my Anime series, because the new series comes out June 1st and when I want to be caught up, I'm already caught up with Bridgerton, so I'm good. But today I got up. I kept moving forward. I made a little bit of lemonade along the way, laughed a whole lot, and I'm proud of me for doing so.

Shannon D Martin: 10:25

So when you're in that moment and you feel like you just can't go on, pause, ask the question journal if you need to pray. Remember to smile and keep moving forward a little bit at a time. That's how you create positive changes in your life. One day, one challenge at a time. Love you, girl. Thank you for joining me. I hope you found value in today's conversation where we talked about embrace, positive thoughts, mind, body harmony. I am your host, Shannon Martin. Be sure to join us next Wednesday where we will discuss something interesting. Until then, stay healthy and well. If you enjoyed today's episode. Let me know what you think by sending me a text yes, a text message. There's a link in the show notes at the very top that you can click on. Let me know what you think about the episode so far, or just say hello and keep up the good work. I'd love to hear from you.

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